No, it isn't at all like you see in movies and sitcoms. No one sings a song when you fall in love or when you see any hot girl around. Bubbles don't blow in the aura and notes don't fly when you colloid with your teacher crush. College life isn't beautiful as it seems to be.
When you enter a college, you feel like a grown up brat. But few things change in your life and this college life teaches you so many important lessons in your life.
I have done so many things in my college life. Crazy things, silly things, intellectual things and what not things.
When you enter gates of your University or college, you are afraid of the change, nervous of being faintly aloof, and excited for entering the freshman year of your college life.
College life seems perfect in freshman year, boring in sophomore, terrible in third and unbearable in your final. The reason?
No, we don't get bored of the same infrastructure, we still admire the places we used to love in our freshman year. And believe me, hostel life is amazing, there is no point in hating it. Then what makes you hate your college?
I've read it somewhere on the internet and I completely accept these words. Yes, school friends are for life, unlike college friends who are ephemeral in your life.
In your freshman year, you will make tens of friends, hundreds of acquaintances and the few good and best friends. You will completely devour yourself in their company. You'll enjoy your college life, laugh your asses off with them, bunk classes with them, watch movies with them.
And some day, they will leave you, they will fight with you and not for you. The picturesque friendship will be adulterated with a blot of misunderstanding.
You'll see them fly away in front of your eyes, but you'll not be able to find out the reason.
You'll start limiting your conversations, skipping classes, and sitting alone in a cafeteria and eating burgers. In a handful of classmates, acquaintances and other people, you will feel lonely. You'll curse yourself. You will believe that you are worst at keeping friendships and relationships.
But then.
Why are you still friends with your school friends?
Maybe because you have grown up together and know one another inside out. There is no room for misunderstanding.
You are friends with someone because they match your mental status and sense of humor.
Why do you lose your friends or best friends?
But why there is a void for misunderstandings between two people who know almost everything about each other. The problem with friendship is not believing your friend but believing the world. You'll never get it from where do all those rumors arise.
Misunderstanding is an anomaly in any relationship, and its roots grow quickly, It is never a one face concept, It has many masked faces. You don't believe your friend has spread a rumor about you, you go and ask some random friend about it, and he tells you few more things you never heard of. You tell that random friend you have lost faith in love and friendship. And he agrees with you, gossips with you and what not.
You stop talking to your best friend, or you just keep your conversation simple and not jovial.
Few more people notice the turn of your friendship and they come to ask you a million things, gossip few more things and tell you many other things you never heard of again. You feel deserted, devastated and alone.
And You Block Your Friend On Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp and Unfollow him on Twitter.
Well!
Does this make any change?
Does this even make you think positive?
Does this even help you to stop thinking about your friend?
When you enter a college, you feel like a grown up brat. But few things change in your life and this college life teaches you so many important lessons in your life.
I have done so many things in my college life. Crazy things, silly things, intellectual things and what not things.
When you enter gates of your University or college, you are afraid of the change, nervous of being faintly aloof, and excited for entering the freshman year of your college life.
College life seems perfect in freshman year, boring in sophomore, terrible in third and unbearable in your final. The reason?
No, we don't get bored of the same infrastructure, we still admire the places we used to love in our freshman year. And believe me, hostel life is amazing, there is no point in hating it. Then what makes you hate your college?
The People...
"School friends are for life"
I've read it somewhere on the internet and I completely accept these words. Yes, school friends are for life, unlike college friends who are ephemeral in your life.
In your freshman year, you will make tens of friends, hundreds of acquaintances and the few good and best friends. You will completely devour yourself in their company. You'll enjoy your college life, laugh your asses off with them, bunk classes with them, watch movies with them.And some day, they will leave you, they will fight with you and not for you. The picturesque friendship will be adulterated with a blot of misunderstanding.
You'll see them fly away in front of your eyes, but you'll not be able to find out the reason.
You'll start limiting your conversations, skipping classes, and sitting alone in a cafeteria and eating burgers. In a handful of classmates, acquaintances and other people, you will feel lonely. You'll curse yourself. You will believe that you are worst at keeping friendships and relationships.
But then.
Why are you still friends with your school friends?
Maybe because you have grown up together and know one another inside out. There is no room for misunderstanding.
You are friends with someone because they match your mental status and sense of humor.
Why do you lose your friends or best friends?
Misunderstandings.
Misunderstanding is an anomaly in any relationship, and its roots grow quickly, It is never a one face concept, It has many masked faces. You don't believe your friend has spread a rumor about you, you go and ask some random friend about it, and he tells you few more things you never heard of. You tell that random friend you have lost faith in love and friendship. And he agrees with you, gossips with you and what not.
You stop talking to your best friend, or you just keep your conversation simple and not jovial.
Few more people notice the turn of your friendship and they come to ask you a million things, gossip few more things and tell you many other things you never heard of again. You feel deserted, devastated and alone.
And You Block Your Friend On Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp and Unfollow him on Twitter.
Well!
Does this make any change?
Does this even make you think positive?
Does this even help you to stop thinking about your friend?
No...
Whenever you are on a verge of breaking any relationship/friendship, find the person (Friend), Ask him/her about everything because he is the only one who can tell you everything correctly and not this society or your other friends. Society and other friends will always try to deride your friendship. And when you talk to your friend, you'll get to know that the 90% of the things were nothing but rumors and rest 10% things are so silly and stupid to break your friendship for.
Do not even try to run away from the friendship.
This world is round.
Your paths will cross someday and you will meet them again.
And after all these years, you will realize how stupid you have been .
"SMILE AND FEEL THE ESSENCE OF FRIENDSHIP"
Lovely take!
ReplyDeleteThanks Madhurima :)
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I am very happy to find that todays' generation talks about friendship so deeply. I guess the new generation is more friendly. Good introspection about this humble relationship.
ReplyDeleteJust a thought!
DeleteFriendship is beautiful :) All you need is a right eye and good ears not to believe what you see and what you hear from other people. World is chasing to break your friendship and you are not running away from it but towards it.
We should Cherish this lovely relationship :)
Hey keep posting such good and meaningful articles.
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